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5 Second Rule

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Summer has felt a little illusive this year. Already we have arrived at the end of July, and I haven’t checked off more than a handful of the things I would counsider to be part of a typical summer bucket list. Truthfully, it can leave me feeling a little blah. What happened to summer days filled with friends, campfires with roasting marshmallows and giant water slides with children screaming gleefully? What happened to summer vacation and time at the beach?

I think, before we sink too deeply into the depths of despair we need to apply the five second rule. The five second rule is grace. Grace given to the last piece of caramel corn you really wanted to eat; but first it fell on the ground. It is the bun for your best friends’ burger that may have scraped an acquaintance with the gravel in the side yard before coming to rest gently around their burger. The five second rule provides a little perspective. I was recently eating ice cream cones with a friend who dropped the last pointy bite of her cone on the ground. Immetiately sadness crept into her face, and then, with a shrug of her shoulders, picked it up, checked for shrapnel, and took the last glorious bite. Perspective. I can handle a little dirt, but I don’t want to miss this treat.

The five second rule seems to be applied nearly exclusively to food and things like dropped pacifiers. What if we began to apply it to more? What if when faced with a grumpy person I thought for 5 seconds before blasting him with my best disdainful look? What if when I’m confronted with someone who disagrees with me, I respectfully choose to agree to disagree and move on–even if they want to cling to the idea of an argument. What if I apply the 5 second rule to my family! Heaven help us all when our kids or spouse or yours truly is unreasonable or difficult to  live with. Maybe taking the five seconds, minutes, hours or days to pause, regroup, think, and PRAY could be the difference between angry words and calm and deliberate conversation.

It’s just possible that the grace of the five second rule isn’t exclusively for a dropped Twinkie. I think I can apply the grace of the five second rule to almost every area of my life. The next time I am grumpy or faced with someone who is grumpy, irritated, fearful or thoughtless I can stop and give the five second rule a try. Imagine the gumpuses of the world like a fallen Cheeto. Is it necessary to grind it to dust beneath my foot, or can I apply the five second rule and put some of this God given grace to work?

The five second rule, this grace, is given to us through the power of the Holy Spirit. Seriously, this magical response is already ours. Grace, freely given to us, can be freely shared by us. In this way, the grace of God is shared with others. As believers we are given the Spirit and the Spirit lives through us, enabling us to share the fragrance of Christ with those around us.

2 Corinthians 6 says this, “We live in such a way that no one will stumble becasue of us, and no one will find fault with our ministry. In everything we do, we show that we are true ministers of God. We patiently endure troubles and hardships and calamities of every kind. We prove ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience, our kindness, by the Holy Spirit witin us, and by our sincere love. We faithfuly preach the truth. Gods power is working in us.”

This is a truth I cling to. Without the power of God at work within me, I am hopelessly unable to show love, understanding, patience or kindness in any form to those around me. I cling to the knowledge that God is at work within me each day giving me the ability to let his grace live through me. The next time you drop a treat on the floor and someone yells out, “5 second rule”, stop and thank God for the grace He has so freely given and consider how you will share that grace with those around you.

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Life at Home

dad and kids in tentI have been watching webinars and reading a lot about living as a quarantined family. There is an overwhelming amount of information about how to live well, happy, and sane with your kids and spouses during this time. As I have been reading, some patterns have emerged. Here are some of the things I have found that seem to be the most helpful:

  1. Get up and get ready for the day! The most impactful way I heard this stated was during The Quarantined Family webinar on the ParentzMatter facebook page on Monday night. “Pajama days are for special days, not for every day”. Everyone feels better, and it feels more like a typical day when everyone gets up, gets dressed and gets going.
  2. Make a schedule. Everyone seems to agree that life is easier if there is some sort of order to the day. It is good to have set times for things like school work, play, outdoor activities and chores.
  3. Set goals or to do lists for each day. What do you plan to accomplish each day? It could be as basic as “don’t lose it with my kids today”, or it could be something like: weed the garden, do laundry, bake with the kids, etc. Checking something off of a list makes it feel like something actually happened! You might consider making a weekly list: Monday-laundry & rooms, Tuesday-baking, etc…
  4. Don’t over schedule. While it is important to have a plan, over-planning usually just frustrates the one who made the plan. Let the whole family speak into the daily goals and plan. If you want everyone to embrace it, then everyone should speak into it.
  5. Schedule time for quiet. When you are setting your schedule be sure to set an actual time for quiet activities. I think that this is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. Pick a time when everyone (to the best of their ability) is doing a quiet activity so that you can have five minutes peace! Coincidentally, I highly recommend the book “Five Minutes Peace” by Jill Murphy. You can watch it being read aloud here.
  6. Talk to your kids. Your kids are listening to every word you say, whether you think they are paying attention or not. Remember that they will take their cues on how to deal with the unknown and this circumstance from you. If you are frantic, worried, or anxious then they will be too. Signs of an anxious child include: restlessness, irritability, not sleeping, bed wetting, and acting out. It can be difficult to know how to differentiate these behaviors from the usual misbehavior of kids who have been cooped up too long, but it is important to keep an eye out for deviations from the usual “go to misbehavior” of your child. Philippians 4:6 & 7 says, “Do not be anxious for anything but in everything by prayer and supplication let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which passes all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” God doesn’t promise us a lack of things to worry over, but he does say he will guard our hearts and our minds. It means that we can walk through difficult circumstances with his peace wrapped around us. Worry and anxious thoughts will not completely disappear because we are human. However, they will not overtake us and consume us if they can’t penetrate our hearts and minds because of the peace of Jesus in our lives.
  7. Live life together. Don’t just spend your time on different screens in different rooms, or with everyone doing their own thing. This is a valuable moment in the life of your family. It is time to bond, communicate and build new habits together. Do you wish that you all ate at the dinner table together? This is your moment. Do you want to spend more time playing games, engaging each other in a real way, learning a new skill or taking up a new hobby? This is the moment.

We get to choose how we will live out these next weeks. Let’s choose to thrive in this time. We will need to be intentional. We will need to persevere. We will need to figure out coping mechanisms for tough days. We will need to cling to Jesus.

Psalm 63:8 “My soul clings to you; your right hand upholds me.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Anchor of My Soul

man in stormThis morning I was reflecting on the changing world around me. We have gone from a world that is bustling with “places to go and people to see” to one that is saying, “you have nowhere to go and no one to see”. In essence, the world is telling us to hunker down-to prepare to be in one place for a long time, for our own protection. We can and we should be mindful of all that is going on around us. We probably shouldn’t mock, but carefully consider our response to the real fear and anxiety caused by this thing that we cannot see.

Why simply hunker down at home when you can also hunker down into Christ? The Bible is full of passages that remind us, exhort us, and command us to trust and follow God through whatever circumstance we find ourselves. Not easy, but absolutely imperative.

2 Timothy 1:7 states, “For God gave us a spirit not of fear, but of power and love and self-control.”

We tell our kids to have self control all the time. We expect them to control their actions, their behavior toward others, and even their tongues. We grown ups can also have self control, specifically over our thoughts and fears. We can hold every thought captive to Christ. He tells us not to have spirit of fear. A spirit of fear is when we let our fears overtake us, and in essence, keep us from moving in any direction. God knows each of us, and He knows that even though we are told to not have a spirit of fear, fear will sitll inevitably come. I believe that it is because He knows that fear will come that there is so much said about it in scripture. In our fear, Psalm 56:3 tells us to put our trust in Him. Isaiah 41:10 says, “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Psalm 46;1 reminds us that “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.”

In Mark 4 we are told the story of the disciples and Jesus being out on a boat in the middle of the Sea of Galilee. Jesus is asleep, and the disciples are consumed by fear of the storm. They are tossed about, water is coming on board, and their very lives appear to be in danger. In their panic, they ask Jesus, “Don’t you care that we are about to drown?” He responds by getting up, and then “rebuked the wind and said to the waves, “Quiet! Be still!” Then the wind died down and it was completely calm. He said to  his disciples, “Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?

He commanded the storm to calm, from right beside them. Jesus is also right beside each of us. We may have to weather a few storms, and we may feel tossed about, but we have Him to walk beside us, to provide the calm in the middle of the storm, and to carry us through.

Hebrews 6:18, 19 “Therefore, we who have fled to him for refuge can have great confidence as we hold to the hope that lies before us. This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls.”

 

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Forgotten Gifts

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There are many gifts of Christmas. The gift of the Messiah seen by Simeon,the gift of a son to Mary and Joseph, the three gifts of the magi to Jesus. Then there are the gifts we give each other. These come in many forms: toys, clothes, books and footy pajamas, all expressions of love to our family and friends. We look at the Christmas story and say that the birth of Jesus was the greatest gift of all.

In our family, I notice that after we open our gifts on Christmas day a couple things happen. Presents that we are very excited about are immediately used or assimilated into our wardrobe, room, garage or kitchen. Some gifts just seem to linger under the tree. Sometimes, these gifts are left for days. Opened, oohed and aahed over, and finally, abandoned and forgotten under the tree.

I can’t help but feel that we often treat this gift of Christmas-the birth of Jesus-the same way. Each year we prepare to celebrate by decorating our homes, buying gifts, baking treats, gathering with friends and family, all in preparation for Christmas. And then, we hear the story. We read it together. We sing of his birth. We celebrate this amazing gift, and then we leave it under the tree. Days after Christmas the tree is down; packed away in the garage or lying unceremonioiusly in the gutter waiting to be collected.The season of Christmas is over, and so is my gratefulness for this gift. The Christmas story is packed away like a manger scene and so is my awareness of all He has done for me.

This gift, like every other one, has to be opened and used to enjoy. It is not enough to simply be aware that Jesus was born. The bigger gift, the best gift, is the one that we can receive after his death and resurrection. Forgiveness for all we have done and ever will do. Hope in a future with Him. These gifts we are told to remember. These are the gifts that Christmas has ultimately brought to us.

Ebenezer Scrooge famously says at the end of Charles Dicken’s A Christmas Carol, “I will honour Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year.” It’s a lovely sentiment.

1 Corinthians 5:21 & 6:1 say this, “For God made Christ, who never sinned, to be the offering for our sin, so that we could be made right with God through Christ. As God’s partners, we beg you not to accept this marvelous gift of God’s kindness and then ignore it.”

This Christmas, let’s not leave anything under the tree. Let’s not receive a marvelous gift and then ignore it.

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Fall

 

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In the Sacramento Valley we wait not so patiently and yearn for the arrival of Fall. Those of us who are natually optimistic wear things like boots and scarves and sweaters, and those of us who know better, see the rest of you removing them one by one as the “fall weather” soars into temperatures more suited to months like May and June. We obsessively watch the forecast as if we expect the weather girl to say, “Wow! Now that’s unusual. It’s 62 degrees outside in October. Time for heavy sweaters and hot apple cider!” Instead we get, “Today’s high is 82 which is average for this time of year.” Heavy (scarfless & bootless) sigh.

In order to fully invest in fall before Thanksgiving arrives, we have compiled a list of things we consider to be fall fun.  We hope you will find some new things to enjoy, and let us know in the comment section if you have ideas we can try. Happy Fall!

  1. Carve pumpkins
  2.  Roast pumpkin seeds
  3. Go tree shaking
  4. Go for a fall foliage walk
  5. Go to Apple Hill
  6. Pick apples
  7. Bake yummy things
  8. Light candles and put twinkle lights all over the house
  9. Decorate for fall
  10. Create something (Pinterest is loaded with craft ideas for grown ups and kids)
  11. Bake pumpkin pie
  12. Watch football (I’ve added my favorite team’s schedule-you’re welcome!!)
  13. Nap in cozy blankets
  14. Make a blanket & pillow fort
  15. Backyard bonfire
  16. Fall organization 
  17. Trick or Treat
  18. Movie marathon or watch It’s the Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown
  19. Make and/or eat caramel apples
  20. Plant bulbs
  21. Plan for Thanksgiving
  22. Take a flashlight walk at night
  23. Be the Great Pumpkin (anonymously gift a friend a fall treat)
  24. Set a reminder to plant pumpkin seeds next spring
  25. Attend fall festivals
  26. Celebrate Friendsgiving (a silly link, enjoy!)
  27. Eat homemade cookies by candle or firelight

 

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Faith, Trust, Pixie Dust?

dandelionHave you ever dreamed of flying? Honestly, with money and a little planning, you can fly anytime. And, traveling by plane is one of my favorite things. To me, a plane ticket equals a departure from the usual and the possibility of new adventures and experiences. You only have to look at history to see that humans have always had a bit of a love affair with flying. This idea, the ability to fly, comes up in a popular kids move called Peter Pan. With a little “faith, trust and pixie dust” adventure awaits!

Sadly, there is a catch. This adventure is rooted in childhood dreams and impossible but exciting situations: pirates, mermaids, a giant alligator, sword fights, and ultimately, a return to reality.

God’s word offers something quite different. Rather than faith, trust and pixie dust, the Bible tells us that faith and trust lead to perfect peace. Not as whimsical as pixie dust, but imminently more valuable.

Isaiah 26:3 says, “You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you.” Faith, trust & perfect peace don’t quite roll off the tongue in the same rhyming sing-song way, but this peace has the advantage of being absolutely perfect. Perfect peace doesn’t look like a perfect life or perfect circumstances. Instead, perfect peace comes as that bone deep knowing that ultimately God is in control and everything is going to be all right. It may not be all right in the way we hope or dream of, but it will be released to us through the Father’s hands, accompanied by perfect peace that only comes from Him. This peace seems like a necessary ingredient to the adventure of life.

Romans 15:13 says, “I pray that God, the source of hope, fills you completely with joy and peace becasue you trust in Him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.”

So, no pixies, but instead, the Holy Spirit. A constant companion and reminder of the hope that is mine. A reminder that I can be overflowing with hope because of the joy and peace that have already filled me completely becasue I trust in God.

Faith, Trust and Perfect Peace? Adventure awaits.

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Summer Bucket List

You hear about bucket lists all the time. What better season to have a bucket list than summer! My favorite sort of bucket is definitely a sand bucket, hopefully accompanying me to the beach. Our Kids Ministry team put our heads together to think of a list of mostly free, must-do summer outings and happenings. We hope that you will consider Giddy Up Gulch, this summer’s Kidtastic Adventure, to be at the top of your list!

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  1. BBQ with neighbors
  2. Play in the pool (yours or someone else’s)
  3. Go to the beach
  4. Build a sand castle (don’t forget your bucket)
  5. Have ice cream cones on the longest day of the year (June 21) we like Taylor’s in Loomis
  6. Make homemade push pops 
  7. River Cats lawn tickets
  8. Bike ride on the American River Trail
  9. Day trip to Lake Tahoe to escape the heat
  10. Visit Giddy Up Gulch at Sunrise Community Church
  11. Roast s’mores
  12. Play in the sprinklers
  13. Have a water balloon fight
  14. Hike to Lake Clementine
  15. Light sparklers on the 4th of July
  16. Go to the Drive in movies
  17. Make sidewalk art with chalk or paintbrushes and water
  18. Go to Livermore Park in Folsom
  19. Go fishing
  20. Have a backyard sleepover or campout
  21. Tie dye something
  22. Check out the Folsom Rodeo and cattle run
  23. Take a flashlight walk after dark to enjoy a perfect evening after a hot day
  24. Roast hot dogs outside
  25. Go camping
  26. Go berry picking
  27. Go to storytime at the Train Museum
  28. Go to Fairy Tale Town
  29. Check out Historic Folsom movie nights and events
  30. Attend Sunrise Summer Family Swim Night on August 2nd
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Seen & Heard

A well-known phrase, “children should be seen and not heard” caught my attention recently.

According to writingexplained.com this proverb originates in the religious ideals of medieval culture. The original meaning was that young women should not speak in the presence of adults, but later was extended to all children.

Admittedly, there have been occasions when I wished my child would be silent: when I am having conversation with a friend, when it has been an excruciatingly long day, when it has been raining for days and we are stuck in the house, or when no one has wanted my attention for hours, but now I am on the phone and there are so many things to be said!

Dwelling more on this phrase brought Matthew 19:13-15 to my mind.  It says this:  “One day some parents brought their children to Jesus so he could lay his hands on them and pray for them. But the disciples scolded the parents for bothering Him. But Jesus said, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the kingdom of Heaven belongs to those who are like these children”.  And he placed his hands on their heads and blessed them before he left.”

I can’t imagine that the kids were quietly waiting in a line to see Jesus. They were all over the place, running, laughing, and chattering away. Notice that Jesus did not say, “I see those children, and they are too loud”. He did say, “let them come to me…don’t stop them”.

I am privileged to be a Children’s Pastor. I get to spend time with kids. Lots of kids. I get to love them, talk with them, comfort those who cry and be glad with the ones who are glad. I don’t believe that a quiet child is a good child. I do believe that noise and presumed chaos can lead to great church experiences and faith that lasts for a lifetime.

A book I was reading encouraged the reader to take a popular phrase or proverb and reverse it. I would say the opposite of “children should be seen and not heard” is this: “Jesus sees the children and he hears them.” Let them come!

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Gifts of Christmas

I love all things Christmas. When people ask me how I am holding up during the holiday season my response is, “I love Christmas, what’s there to be stressed about?” That being said, it is important to note that there are times when the demands on my person and schedule can feel like too much. Besides my normal full-time job, family, and other regular commitments there are parties and gatherings, church events, decorating and Christmasifying our home, baking, and of course buying presents for the special people in my life.

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I love shopping (I would say don’t tell my husband, but he is fully aware), and for the most part I find Christmas shopping to be a fun and joyful thing. But there are times when it seems like I can’t find the right gift. There are times when finances have been tight and shopping for gifts did not fill me with joy, but with anxiety. And there are times when I look around at all of the unnecessary stuff and wonder why I am wasting time and money on things that no one needs.

However, gift giving isn’t as much about need as it is about a tangible expression of my love for someone. It’s lovely to give people things they need, but it is also worthwhile to give gifts that are meaningful. They can be hand-made, donations made on the recipients behalf, or even gifts that are based in family or friend traditions.

This year, let’s consider giving the gifts we give with a little more thought and consideration. Not the “I should give you a present” gifts, but gifts that come from our heart, given to touch the heart of another in a tangible way.

Click here for a great article from Lifetree Kids with some input on giving less or more intentionally at Christmas time. If you are ever looking for good resources for faith and family, this is one of my favorites!

 

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Falling Together

While only kids (and those lucky school teachers) have been on actual summer holiday, the rest of us have tried to capture the mood of Summer as much as we can: backyard barbeques, pool days, lazy days at the beach, sleeping in, hiking and travel. Summer still has 24 days left, but the beginning of school signifies the end of the summer. What old patterns are you falling back into? Probably a series of alarm clocks, school and sports schedules, and a return to the weekly activities that make up the bulk of our daily lives.

Have you considered falling into new habits this year? Most people think of fall as signaling the beginning of the end of the year, or the beginning of the rush toward the holidays. But fall is a time to consider new beginnings as well.

I hope that this year you will consider joining us for a new year of Wednesday night ministry at Sunrise. We have great things planned for our elementary boys and girls clubs. This fall the boys will be learning how to make step stools and talk about fire safety while learning Biblical values and being mentored by amazing men. The girls will be learning foundational truths about faith and their identity in Christ, doing some fun crafting and build relationships with other girls and the women who are investing in their lives.

Grown-ups can participate in various activities on campus including women’s Bible studies, exercise classes and open gym, choir, and Sunrise Common (open foyer for building relationships, drinking coffee, and well, you decide). And of course, start your night off in Sunrise Café, because who wants to cook dinner on a Wednesday night anyway?

There are so many ways we can choose to spend our time, but this year, let’s go “Falling Together”!